People Will Tell You Who They Are...

I would like to mention before starting this blog that although events have changed my perspective, I am still a person who likes things the way I like them. Teachers and educators in general are all about control. After all, you get to have your own little classroom universe that goes (most of the time) the way you planned. Now, I have learned that really you don't have control of much at all...except your response..but that doesn't mean I don't have leftover control residue floating around inside me. There should be a machine that can vacuum that right out of you. I am sure if there was, it would cost a LOT of money, and as we all know, I am in education, where lots of money doesn't exist.

Since being out of the bubble, a lot of things have changed for me..and all for the better, I think. But I do still have this teeny tiny issue of liking things the way I would like them. And because I have this residual effect, I don't listen to what people say the way I should. I listen to people (especially men) the way I would like them to respond. And the issue is that I need to listen to what people say...because people will tell you who they are.

Let me give you some examples.

1. "I am not interested in that kind of relationship right now."  Did I hear that? No, I did not. I heard, "I'm not interested in that kind relationship at the moment, but I don't really mean it..and I'm going to eventually change my mind because you are so wonderful".

2." I like you...but just as a friend.". Now I did hear that...but what I really thought in my head was, "Hmmmm, he will change his mind eventually. He just needs time to find out that he really wants me more than a friend."

3. "I struggle at times with integrity". (I didn't really hear that at all at first..until circumstances presented themselves, and that quote floated into my pea-headed brain. Hmmmm.)

4. "You are just a wonderful, amazing, person".  Now if I am that way, why isn't the person interested in me?

I have learned a lot in the past six years. I've learned more than I ever thought (the issue being that I didn't think) about human nature and what people will tell you if you just listen to what they say.

Cause, you know, people will tell you who they are.